It can be challenging to get any two people to agree on anything. Politics, Beyonce, the environment; You name it and you will often get two very distinct perspectives. This can get even tougher when it comes to spouses. It’s so much more complicated than “I like pink and he likes blue”. Merging two complete adult lives is just a tricky matter. Each individual has their own style, personality, baggage (literally and figuratively), and life experiences they bring to the table. It is possible for two individuals with wildly different styles to live happily under the same roof. I have created these spaces for clients successfully despite the decor bumps we have hit along the way.

Choosing the Perfect Paint Color Palette with your Partner

I know what you are thinking…

“How am I supposed to respect someone’s taste who thinks an old college recliner is okay in the formal living room?”

“This is someone who can’t even coordinate their own day without my help. Why should I trust their design ideas?”

All those points about your partner may be valid (and a bit shady)  but they matter. A home is where not only the heart is, but a place that is your refuge. You should feel safe, comfortable, and happy. Right? Here is my proven process to get you and your partner to choose a paint color without it turning into an episode of Maury. I’ve also included a downloadable checklist to help you out.


1. Listen

Yes I said listen. Whether you want to hear it or not. There are two voices in the room and each person wants to be heard. Sometimes just acknowledging and “respecting” someone else’s thoughts can go a long way.

2. Share ideas

Each of you should create a pinterest board with images that have wall colors you like. Only 5-10 images are needed (not 400). Then, choose 3 images/colors you like most and why you think it should work. You may find you have surprisingly similar taste or find some middle ground.

3. Find inspiration in the bedroom closet

Yes, the closet. What colors do each of you like to see yourself in? Make a list. Keep it short 2-3 max. Now compare. What colors would make a great backdrop to your wardrobe/ lifestyle?

4. Take a field trip to the paint store

Each of you should select 2-3 colors that you like. Get samples. Paint swatches. Choose your top two paint colors.

5. Make it work.

Now that you have your top 2 colors, see how they work with your furniture/ decor. Choose the one that works best.


See! That was easy right? Even if you and your partner agree on colors/decor this exercise is still very helpful in making proper design decisions. It might take a bit of work but ultimately you both can create a home that everyone one loves.

Here is an example of a color palette I created for some of my clients!

Choosing the Perfect Paint Color Palette with your Partner


I hope you found this helpful. Just follow this simple checklist to guide you through the process. Remember to have fun and listen to each other. And if all else fails. Call a pro!